You're always there for them.
But who is there for you?
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An expert-moderated online community for individuals whose loved ones struggle with mental health challenges.
Completely anonymous. Separate groups for men and women.
Navigating a relationship with someone in the throes of mental illness is like walking a path strewn with glass. The shards of pain are everywhere and seem unavoidable.
âIâm enabling this,â so I pull back.Â
But now âIâm not giving them the support they need to get healthyâ
âI will give her the world,â sheâs my child!
But âIâm so angry at how sheâs destroyed our homeâ
âI love them,â theyâre family!Â
But also âI hate the person theyâve becomeâ
âIâll give them everything I can,â theyâre suffering.Â
But what if âIâm so depleted, Iâm falling apart, and anyways, nothing I do seems to helpâ
Â
Youâve discovered that youâre stronger than you ever dreamed. Even if you wish you didnât have to learn that the hard way.Â
THE FAMILY & FRIENDS COMMUNITY,
HOSTED BY THE CBT/DBT CENTERÂ
Â
Learn how to best support the most important people in your life â and yourself, too.
Knowledge
via comprehensive classes and monthly live calls where we explore evidence-based tools for supporting your loved ones
Support
from the all-frum, always anonymous group where you can talk, share, and gain from people who get it
Peace of Mind
from knowhow to effectively navigate the relationship and nurture your own happiness
Â
100% confidential. 100% anonymous.
How it works:
Choose a name thatâll appear on-screen, and be visible to the rest of the group.Â
Other group members will not have access to your real name or any information you donât share on the platform.Â
Please note: Your name will be requested at checkout, and visible to one member of our team so we can ensure that the group remains a safe place.
 Separate groups for men and women.
In alignment with our hashkafic standards.
Safe and supportive.
The community is carefully moderated by our team to ensure that conversations remain supportive, positive, and productive.
Note that the expertsâ support does not constitute a therapeutic intervention.
Separate groups for men and women
In alignment with our hashkafic standards.
You feel like youâre swimming upstream, in a pool of perfect families who donât struggle.Â
Join a group of people who get it â and finally, feel that youâre not alone.
JOIN THE FAMILY & FRIENDS COMMUNITY AND GETÂ
5 comprehensive classes
Prerecorded, so you can watch on your own time. Learn tools to help you navigate the relationship with your struggling loved one most effectively from a clinical psychologist who knows her way around this minefield.
Â
CLASS ONE: Establish your goals
Understand your goals in learning this information and using it to benefit your relationship.
- Clarify the goals for you and your ability to support your loved one
- Identify the anticipated benefits of joining
- Understand the role of environment â and your presence â in your loved oneâs journey to emotional health
CLASS TWO: Understanding your loved ones
Understand your loved ones through the lens of DBT â an effective, evidence-based modalityÂ
- The biosocial theory: why your loved one struggles with emotions that feel âcrazyâ
- How dialectics integrate with Jewish hashkafa, and allows for both acceptance and change
CLASS THREE: The functions of behaviors
Understand the behaviors of your loved ones â as crazy and painful as they seem
- Is it just biology?
- MEATS: all behaviors have a function Â
- Oh, so manipulativeâŚ
CLASS FOUR: Improving the relationship
Understand the role of validation in improving your relationship with your loved one
- What validation is â and is not
- Why validation is the most potent tool to effect change - hint: itâs not about letting them get away with it!
- The relationship piggy bank and how to keep up your cash flow
CLASS FIVE: Useful DBT Skills
Explore proven skills to help you nurture your wellbeing
- Mindfulness â and how it can help you and your loved one
- Emotion regulation â even in times of crisis
- How to effectively engage interpersonallyÂ
Handouts
Beautifully designed handouts that summarize the classes, guide you on implementation, consolidate the information, and make it easy to refer back to what youâve learned and implement the tools youâve gained.
Anonymous online community
A place to connect with those who âget it,â safely share about your challenge, and give and get support by sharing and hearing what works for others.
Separate groups for men and women
Moderation
Experts from The CBT/DBT Center team will moderate the forums to ensure they remain a supportive space. The online community does not serve as a therapeutic intervention.
Â
Monthly lives
Once a month, weâll meet for a live Zoom call, led by one of The CBT/DBT Center team members. Youâll bring your questions â how does this apply whenâŚ? â and most complex scenarios â I donât know what to do when⌠â and get guidance from a professional.
This group is for you if your loved one struggles with significant mental health challenges.Â
If they have no diagnosis at all.
If theyâve been diagnosed with BPD, anxiety, depression, or PTSD.
If they struggle with suicidal ideation, violence, addiction, or an inability to work together or respect your needs.
Whoâs behind this?
Dr. Chaya Lieba Kobernick, founder of The CBT/DBT CenterÂ
 Dr. Chaya Lieba Kobernick is a licensed clinical psychologist and the Founder and Director of The CBT/DBT Center, with advanced training in DBT, and other evidence-based approaches for treating suicidality, emotion dysregulation, PTSD, depression, anxiety, OCD, and more. Sheâs passionate about helping loved ones shift the dynamic so everyone heals and everyone thrives.
 Moderated by our team of experts
Our team is experienced in supporting those with mental health struggles â and their loved ones â to achieve long-term change and live meaningful, happy lives.
Meet the team here.
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Under the guidance of Rabbi Yitzchak Jaeger
âWhat mental health needs is more sunlight, more candor, more unashamed conversations about illness that affect not only individuals but their families as wellâÂ
â Glenn Close
Whether itâs your parent, child, in-law, sibling, or friend who is struggling â our goal is to bring you some sunlight, lots of candor, and open, healing conversation.
An all-inclusive support network
- 5 comprehensive classes to help you understand your loved one and navigate the relationship
- Beautiful handouts to complement the classes
- Supportive online community â all-frum and anonymous (separate groups for men and women)
- Moderation from members of our team
- 1 live call monthly with an expert from The CBT/DBT Center team
 $39/month
Get two months FREE when signing up for a year
BRAVERY. Thatâs what it takes for you to extend this KINDNESS toward yourself. To make space for a little more CONNECTION and a little more JOY.
We canât tell you itâs going to be easy. It probably wonât be.Â
And youâll no longer be navigating the hard alone or without any sort of map.Â
You might be wonderingâŚ
How can I be sure that Iâll really be anonymous?
You choose your screen name when you join and thatâs the only thing visible to other members of the group. And you get to choose how much you share in the group.
Itâs not a family member of mine thatâs struggling with mental health â I do. Will this help me?
The community is specifically designed for family members and friends of those struggling. While this is not a perfect fit for you, weâd love to support you. Visit thecbtdbtcenter.com or email us at [email protected].Â
Is the group right for me?
The group is designed to support you if someone close to you (a family member or close friend) is struggling with mental health challenges.
Someone close to me has been diagnosed with bipolar or schizophrenia. Will this help?
Yes, the community will be a source of empowerment for you via knowledge and community support.Â
Typically, itâs extremely helpful for the family members of individuals with bipolar or schizophrenia to be equipped with more knowledge than weâve provided in the prerecorded classes. However, we donât cover those topics in-depth, so keep in mind that you may want to explore them elsewhere, or request that we speak about them more in the lives.
My family member has no diagnosis. Is this a good fit for me?
If your family member struggles with outbursts, suicidal communication, violence, mood swings, or paralyzing anxiety, then yes, we created this for someone like you. Typically, we even prefer to look at the nature of the problem â what are the facts? â as opposed to the label or diagnosis.
How will the live calls be anonymous?
You can turn off your camera and log in with the Zoom name of your choice to protect your identity.Â
Questions will be asked via the chat to the call host, so thereâs no interaction between participants.Â
How much time do I need to commit to this?
The live calls will take place monthly and last about 60 minutes. Outside of the monthly calls, you set the schedule â how often and when do you want to be checking in to the virtual community? When will you watch the prerecorded classes? You decide.
My family member is the one with the problems â and they refuse to get help. Why should I sign up for something?
You canât change your family member directly. But you can choose to equip yourself with the tools that will help you release some of the burden, guilt, fear, and pain and live a more happy and fulfilling life. And yes, if you do the work we delve into in the community, you will see changes in your relationship with this person, even if theyâre not open to receiving help right now. We canât make people change, and we can do things that are most likely to lead to change â let us show you how.
What if the group isnât right for me?
Our hope is that this community will prove to be a life-changing resource and wellspring of support for you. The membership is a monthly subscription, so you can cancel anytime. If you choose our discounted 3-month offer â expiring on July 8 â your first opportunity to cancel will be after 3 months.
Have questions? Weâd love to have thoughtful people like you in our group. Reach out to [email protected].
A note from Dr. Chaya Lieba Kobernick:
One of the most powerful things I get to explore as a behavioral psychologist is our power of choice.Â
And the choice is yours:Â
You donât join.
What happens? Nothing.
No one will come after you : )
And things will continue as they have until now.
Â
You sign up for an all-frum, all-anonymous support group.
You learn skills, gain support, and finally have a place to hold your pain.Â
You can navigate lifeâs most complex relationships with confidence because youâve been given evidence-based tools with guidance from professionals.
I would love to welcome you (or your screen name đ) inside.Â
Because I believe you deserve it.Â
You're always there for them.
But who is there for you?
Â
An expert-moderated online community for individuals whose loved ones struggle with mental health challenges.
Completely anonymous. Separate groups for men and women.
Navigating a relationship with someone in the throes of mental illness is like walking a path strewn with glass. The shards of pain are everywhere and seem unavoidable.
âIâm enabling this,â so I pull back.Â
But now âIâm not giving them the support they need to get healthyâ
âI will give her the world,â sheâs my child!
But âIâm so angry at how sheâs destroyed our homeâ
âI love them,â theyâre family!Â
But also âI hate the person theyâve becomeâ
âIâll give them everything I can,â theyâre suffering.Â
But what if âIâm so depleted, Iâm falling apart, and anyways, nothing I do seems to helpâ
Â
Youâve discovered that youâre stronger than you ever dreamed. Even if you wish you didnât have to learn that the hard way.Â
THE FAMILY & FRIENDS COMMUNITY,
HOSTED BY THE CBT/DBT CENTERÂ
Â
Learn how to best support the most important people in your life â and yourself, too.
Knowledge
via comprehensive classes and monthly live calls where we explore evidence-based tools for supporting your loved ones
Support
from the all-frum, always anonymous group where you can talk, share, and gain from people who get it
Peace of Mind
from knowhow to effectively navigate the relationship and nurture your own happiness
Â
100% confidential. 100% anonymous.
How it works:
Choose a name thatâll appear on-screen, and be visible to the rest of the group.Â
Other group members will not have access to your real name or any information you donât share on the platform.Â
Please note: Your name will be requested at checkout, and visible to one member of our team so we can ensure that the group remains a safe place.
 Separate groups for men and women.
In alignment with our hashkafic standards.
Safe and supportive.
The community is carefully moderated by our team to ensure that conversations remain supportive, positive, and productive.
Note that the expertsâ support does not constitute a therapeutic intervention.
Separate groups for men and women
In alignment with our hashkafic standards.
You feel like youâre swimming upstream, in a pool of perfect families who donât struggle.Â
Join a group of people who get it â and finally, feel that youâre not alone.
JOIN THE FAMILY & FRIENDS COMMUNITY AND GETÂ
5 comprehensive classes
Prerecorded, so you can watch on your own time. Learn tools to help you navigate the relationship with your struggling loved one most effectively from a clinical psychologist who knows her way around this minefield.
Â
CLASS ONE: Establish your goals
Understand your goals in learning this information and using it to benefit your relationship.
- Clarify the goals for you and your ability to support your loved one
- Identify the anticipated benefits of joining
- Understand the role of environment â and your presence â in your loved oneâs journey to emotional health
CLASS TWO: Understanding your loved ones
Understand your loved ones through the lens of DBT â an effective, evidence-based modalityÂ
- The biosocial theory: why your loved one struggles with emotions that feel âcrazyâ
- How dialectics integrate with Jewish hashkafa, and allows for both acceptance and change
CLASS THREE: The functions of behaviors
Understand the behaviors of your loved ones â as crazy and painful as they seem
- Is it just biology?
- MEATS: all behaviors have a function Â
- Oh, so manipulativeâŚ
CLASS FOUR: Improving the relationship
Understand the role of validation in improving your relationship with your loved one
- What validation is â and is not
- Why validation is the most potent tool to effect change - hint: itâs not about letting them get away with it!
- The relationship piggy bank and how to keep up your cash flow
CLASS FIVE: Useful DBT Skills
Explore proven skills to help you nurture your wellbeing
- Mindfulness â and how it can help you and your loved one
- Emotion regulation â even in times of crisis
- How to effectively engage interpersonallyÂ
Handouts
Beautifully designed handouts that summarize the classes, guide you on implementation, consolidate the information, and make it easy to refer back to what youâve learned and implement the tools youâve gained.
Anonymous online community
A place to connect with those who âget it,â safely share about your challenge, and give and get support by sharing and hearing what works for others.
Separate groups for men and women
Moderation
Experts from The CBT/DBT Center team will moderate the forums to ensure they remain a supportive space. The online community does not serve as a therapeutic intervention.
Â
Monthly lives
Once a month, weâll meet for a live Zoom call, led by one of The CBT/DBT Center team members. Youâll bring your questions â how does this apply whenâŚ? â and most complex scenarios â I donât know what to do when⌠â and get guidance from a professional.
This group is for you if your loved one struggles with significant mental health challenges.Â
If they have no diagnosis at all.
If theyâve been diagnosed with BPD, anxiety, depression, or PTSD.
If they struggle with suicidal ideation, violence, addiction, or an inability to work together or respect your needs.
Whoâs behind this?
Dr. Chaya Lieba Kobernick, founder of The CBT/DBT CenterÂ
 Dr. Chaya Lieba Kobernick is a licensed clinical psychologist and the Founder and Director of The CBT/DBT Center, with advanced training in DBT, and other evidence-based approaches for treating suicidality, emotion dysregulation, PTSD, depression, anxiety, OCD, and more. Sheâs passionate about helping loved ones shift the dynamic so everyone heals and everyone thrives.
 Moderated by our team of experts
Our team is experienced in supporting those with mental health struggles â and their loved ones â to achieve long-term change and live meaningful, happy lives.
Meet the team here.
Under the guidance of Rabbi Yitzchak Jaeger
âWhat mental health needs is more sunlight, more candor, more unashamed conversations about illness that affect not only individuals but their families as wellâÂ
â Glenn Close
Whether itâs your parent, child, in-law, sibling, or friend who is struggling â our goal is to bring you some sunlight, lots of candor, and open, healing conversation.
An all-inclusive support network
- 5 comprehensive classes to help you understand your loved one and navigate the relationship
- Beautiful handouts to complement the classes
- Supportive online community â all-frum and anonymous (separate groups for men and women)
- Moderation from members of our team
- 1 live call monthly with an expert from The CBT/DBT Center team
 $97/month
BRAVERY. Thatâs what it takes for you to extend this KINDNESS toward yourself. To make space for a little more CONNECTION and a little more JOY.
We canât tell you itâs going to be easy. It probably wonât be.Â
And youâll no longer be navigating the hard alone or without any sort of map.Â
You might be wonderingâŚ
How can I be sure that Iâll really be anonymous?
You choose your screen name when you join and thatâs the only thing visible to other members of the group. And you get to choose how much you share in the group.
Itâs not a family member of mine thatâs struggling with mental health â I do. Will this help me?
The community is specifically designed for family members and friends of those struggling. While this is not a perfect fit for you, weâd love to support you. Visit thecbtdbtcenter.com or email us at [email protected].Â
Is the group right for me?
The group is designed to support you if someone close to you (a family member or close friend) is struggling with mental health challenges.
Someone close to me has been diagnosed with bipolar or schizophrenia. Will this help?
Yes, the community will be a source of empowerment for you via knowledge and community support.Â
Typically, itâs extremely helpful for the family members of individuals with bipolar or schizophrenia to be equipped with more knowledge than weâve provided in the prerecorded classes. However, we donât cover those topics in-depth, so keep in mind that you may want to explore them elsewhere, or request that we speak about them more in the lives.
My family member has no diagnosis. Is this a good fit for me?
If your family member struggles with outbursts, suicidal communication, violence, mood swings, or paralyzing anxiety, then yes, we created this for someone like you. Typically, we even prefer to look at the nature of the problem â what are the facts? â as opposed to the label or diagnosis.
How will the live calls be anonymous?
You can turn off your camera and log in with the Zoom name of your choice to protect your identity.Â
Questions will be asked via the chat to the call host, so thereâs no interaction between participants.Â
How much time do I need to commit to this?
The live calls will take place monthly and last about 60 minutes. Outside of the monthly calls, you set the schedule â how often and when do you want to be checking in to the virtual community? When will you watch the prerecorded classes? You decide.
My family member is the one with the problems â and they refuse to get help. Why should I sign up for something?
You canât change your family member directly. But you can choose to equip yourself with the tools that will help you release some of the burden, guilt, fear, and pain and live a more happy and fulfilling life. And yes, if you do the work we delve into in the community, you will see changes in your relationship with this person, even if theyâre not open to receiving help right now. We canât make people change, and we can do things that are most likely to lead to change â let us show you how.
What if the group isnât right for me?
Our hope is that this community will prove to be a life-changing resource and wellspring of support for you. The membership is a monthly subscription, so you can cancel anytime. If you choose our discounted 3-month offer â expiring on July 8 â your first opportunity to cancel will be after 3 months.
Have questions? Weâd love to have thoughtful people like you in our group. Reach out to [email protected].
A note from Dr. Chaya Lieba Kobernick:
One of the most powerful things I get to explore as a behavioral psychologist is our power of choice.Â
And the choice is yours:Â
You donât join.
What happens? Nothing.
No one will come after you :)
And things will continue as they have until now.
Â
You sign up for an all-frum, all-anonymous support group.
You learn skills, gain support, and finally have a place to hold your pain.Â
You can navigate lifeâs most complex relationships with confidence because youâve been given evidence-based tools with guidance from professionals.
I would love to welcome you (or your screen name đ) inside.Â
Because I believe you deserve it.Â
Things can get better.
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